The Four parenting styles, parenting styles
Parenting styles are vitally important to a children’s behavior. The type of parent that you are, and the way that you discipline, will certainly influence your children’s behavior. Parenting styles are techniques that parents use to take care of their children.
Every grandmother and grandfather will tell you hilarious stories of their children when they were first born. And for every funny and touching story they have, they will be able to tell you another for every hardship they encountered. Parenting Styles is something that is done in many different ways by each parent.
Some parenting styles are more effective than others are. Parenting styles differ from family to family, and may even vary from day to day within one family. All parents take decisions for their children that may be stricter or more indulgent on occasion. The following is four general styles employed by parents.
Authoritarian Parenting Styles:
Authoritarian parents rule on just that: authority. Authoritarian parents, however, also expect their children to accept their judgments, values, and goals without questioning. Commands are given to children that they must follow regardless of the circumstances. If these commands are not followed, harsh punishment will ensue.
These parents do not welcome feedback from their children. In fact, it is met with severe punishment. The children tend to be quiet and unhappy. They have more of a fear than a love for their parents. Male children have trouble dealing with anger and female children have trouble facing adversity due to their heavily structured life where nothing ever changes.
Permissive Parents:
These parents encourage their children to their fullest, but do not set limits. They emphasize creativity and feelings, although their children often feel unloved pursuant to not having many restrictions.
Permissive parents are moderately to be highly responsive to their children, but low on demanding thus, they exercise less control than other parents, putting fewer maturity demands on their children, especially with regard to expressions of anger and aggressive behavior.
Authoritative Parenting Styles:
Authoritative parents are a combination of the two styles previously mentioned. They are the happy medium. While expecting proper behavior from their children, they welcome feedback and questioning on certain issues. They’re able to demand things of their children but are also able to respond to what they’re a child says, questions and requests.
These children tend to be the happiest, most confident and self assured of all the mentioned parenting styles. It is very difficult to be a purely authoritative parent. Authoritative parents have high expectations for their children to follow rules, but are more flexible and understanding than an authoritarian. Supportive and involved, authoritative parents listen when their children have complaints or concerns.
Uninvolved Parents:
Lastly, we look at the parent style known as “uninvolved parents”. As the name suggests, these parents are simply uninvolved. They are neither demanding nor responsive to their children, and they are not interested in any feedback from them.
These parents are the most likely to be irresponsible and more often neglect their children. These parents may never be home due to immaturity, work or the like. These children are usually raised by grandparents, older siblings, babysitters or themselves. There is no parental involvement at all.
Authoritarian (vs.) Authoritative Parenting Styles:
Authoritarian parents don’t tolerate much disagreement, so their children tend to struggle for independence. Authoritarian is demanding but not responsive. Authoritative parents are not usually controlling, allowing the child to explore more freely.
Authoritative parenting skills, which balances clear, high parental demands with emotional responsiveness and recognition of child autonomy, is one of the most consistent family predictors of competence from early childhood through adolescence.
There is no hard and fast rule with regard to which is best parenting styles. However, employing each of these parenting styles depending upon the circumstances will bring out optimal results.